If you have listened to Taylor Swift’s music for any amount of time, along with most popular music, you will agree relationships can get complicated.
Why you gotta go and make things so complicated?
It’s too late to apologize, it’s too late.
You should of said no, you should have gone home…
The seven things I hate about you…
Think about it though, you are trying to get two people with different backgrounds, different up-bringings, different beliefs, different ways of thinking, different understandings to wind up on the same page. It’s difficult sometimes. Well I would challenge you, whether a work relationship, friendship, peer relationship, or otherwise, to build bridges not walls.
We build walls when we demand to be understood. We build walls when we demand to be heard. We build walls when we refuse to compromise. We build walls when we refuse to be wrong.
As we have often heard, communication is a two way street, however we can often block the oncoming traffic, preventing them from coming through. We can put up road blocks slowing or preventing the traffic flow. For communication to work we must keep both lanes open. We must allow others to communicate, but we too must communicate. What is not said is not communicated, and remember, it doesn’t matter what you say, it matters what another person understands you to say. Even misunderstandings leave two people at fault.
We build bridges when we seek to understand. We build bridges when we decide to listen. We build bridges when we choose to compromise. We build bridges when we admit our faults (even when we don’t feel wrong).
I will leave you with this final thought. We can’t always afford to be right. We all want to be right; it feels good to be right, but we can’t always afford to be right. Relationships are the most valuable thing we have on earth, but can be easily lost if we demand to be right. To keep and establish solid relationships we must build bridges of communication and tear down the walls that block others from getting through.
What are ways you build bridges and tear down walls?
Dalayna is the founder of Kyrie Coffee and creator of kyriecoffee.wordpress.com. She is a youth pastor by trade and Christ-follower at heart. She is passionate about impacting the world with the message of Jesus and inspiring change in lives and in the world however possible. Dalayna loves coffee, adventures, criminal shows, Taylor Swift, creating, growing, and people.